Our lives can be consumed with regrets IF we allow regret to flourish. I could write a book on my personal regrets. What might I regret one can ask? It is when I should’ve; could’ve done things differently. I could’ve been more loving without judging. I should’ve been a friend to one who has none, to smile at those I meet rather than being focused on my agenda any given day or time. I regret my failures in life, which are many, and could easily continue this regret carrying the baggage into some if not all other parts of my life.
Do you have regrets? How about the times in life when you should’ve, would’ve, could have done things differently and now regret that you didn’t? If you are living in regret, I challenge you to give it up to the LORD. It is not His will to live with regrets as all it does is hold us back from His best.
Paul says in Phil. 3:13-15 “Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Let those of us who are mature think this way.”
A regret can and will tear our hearts up if we let it. There is nothing we can do about the things we regret except to give them up. Beating ourselves up does no good except, and in a real way, showing others that God’s grace isn’t enough to wipe out our regrets. God’s grace is the only thing that can and does make the gnawing feeling of regret stop. God gave us The Gift of Prevailing Hope through Jesus Christ. He forgives us of every sin, every regret, and time we ask Him. Then we can live effectively with joy. His forgiveness as we forgive ourselves will make it a new moment; a new today; a new second chance.
To live in regret boils down to a choice we make. I’ve done many things that I regret. Sometimes the toughest part was to forgive myself. But by God’s grace I’ve learned to accept His anointing and forgiveness. It set me free to pursue the LORD with no regrets; pressing on to live my life to the fullness of my ability by His grace.
A different type of the regret is when I did something and latter wish I had not done it but…did. This list includes eating that lonely donut that I didn’t need. It also includes my stubbornness, losing my temper and words that fly out of my mouth before my brain kicks in.
Do you have any “wish I wouldn’t haves” in your life? Every type of regret is a waste of our time and energies. It is a waste of time as we cannot go back in time and do it over. Wishing we could will not change anything. It will consume us and keep us from being at one’s best. Sure we can learn from our regrets but after we ask the LORD’s forgiveness; it is unwise to dwell in these vast wastelands of self-imposed guilt. I challenge myself and you – to move on. May we repent of our regrets and accept the LORD’s forgiveness and as Paul said, “press on.” 2 Cor. 12:9 But Jesus said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”